By Alexandria Jane.
Gaslighting is a term referring to a kind of psychological abuse typified by an abuser who does things to mess with a person’s mind to make the person feel crazy. The term comes from a movie starring Ingrid Bergman, who is made to believe she’s crazy as her abuser causes lights flicker in her home among other things (watch the movie) and treats her as though she’s losing her mind, convincing her that she was losing her mind.[1]
Gaslighting is about having control. It doesn’t matter how a person’s frame of mind is manipulated as long as they’re under control. In fact, convincing a person that they’re being victimized is, in my opinion, just as debilitating as being made to believe they’re losing their faculties to mental illness. Both make a person feel helpless and needy, the ideal subordinate candidate who will be open for manipulation and pliable.
Honestly, this kind of abuse is abhorrent. I consider it to be psychological terrorism. I find it to be immoral and totally unethical. We have a right to pursue truth and personal growth. If a person doesn’t know what gaslighting is, they probably won’t have a defense mechanism built in to protect themselves from this kind of abuse. Gaslighting robs people of the right to pursue truth and growth by causing a mental car crash of sorts when the car is actually fine.
Unfortunately, and this is where gaslighting gets uglier, people don’t like to be wrong. It can be impossible to save someone from gaslighting if they feel tested, persecuted, and paranoid when you try to prove that they’re being abused. Gaslighting combined with cognitive dissonance produces people who will actually defend insanity, refusing mental clarity and peace of mind in order to maintain that feeling of rightness.
Mainstream media gaslights viewers all the time. I can tell who watches television by how hysterical they get when their beliefs are questioned or challenged in any way. Mainstream media has created its own cult following of conformists who are now hysterical and insane because they’re good people who’ve been thoroughly manipulated by mainstream media.
But what about the research that mainstream media shares? Doesn’t that make mainstream media legitimate in some way? Seriously, go to a college campus and say that gender is biological. Notice the reaction. How can science exist in such an intolerant culture? Science is dissent, and yet you cannot dissent on UC’s anymore without risking being charged with a hate crime or kicked out of school under Title IX. Professors lose their jobs for dissenting. Censorship is this bad at colleges and universities, which means that ALL of the research that is coming out of these academic shitholes lacks validity. Mainstream media preys on your heurism to push pseudoscience to gaslight you. The negative impact this has on our kids is outrageously understated, if not ignored, by mainstream media that protects the Nomenklatura, not you.
I genuinely care about people. I hurt when people I care about hurt. I hurt when strangers hurt. Conversely, I feel good when people feel good about themselves and know they’re loved. I’ve had a lot of unique experiences in my life, most of which I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. I have deep empathy for other people. I can genuinely put myself in a lot of people’s shoes, like I’m a trillion-legged octopus or something. I know what it’s like to be different, to be rejected for being different, and to do the best I can with what I have, even when I’ve felt like I had less than nothing.
I’m very upset at how the media is using trans people to change gender from a biological construct to a social construct. First off, this has hurt so many people who believe mainstream media and believe people want to erase them. Not true at all. Anyone who isn’t a dogmatic theo-fascist will support your decisions to be who you want to be and live your life how you want to live your life as long as you don’t hurt people, don’t tell people what they can and cannot say and do, and do respect the rights of others. We all deserve the same freedom to make decisions for ourselves instead of having decisions made for us. This is what it means to be conservative. This is why there are gay and trans conservatives, because they actually know what it means to be conservative, not the lie that the media pushes about us all being Commie Christian scum.
Mainstream media is making people hysterical by gaslighting its viewers. Just as criticizing Israel is now anti-Semitic hate speech that the right ironically wants censored, the left would have anything that challenges mainstream media’s message about trans people to be deemed transphobic and therefore worthy of being censored. It’s like a bizarre mental werewolf syndrome where ideas are like the full moon and a normal person will lose it and turn into a monster, betraying all of their virtues and values that they would normally integrate in everyday interactions, later coming to with no recollection or remorse for the harm they caused during their hysterics.
It’s difficult for me to be angry at this group because I was a victim of the same kind of abuse for a long time. I know what it’s like for them. I didn’t ask to be victimized. I didn’t know what gaslighting was until years later in therapy. I know what it’s like to be robbed of deliberative freedom. That was probably the worst thing that was stolen from me growing up. I couldn’t make decisions for myself. I was needy, dependent; a Democrat.
The state absolutely abuses us the way my father abused me and controlled his cult, my family. (I go by a pseudonym for a reason.) I guess you could say that abuse was a blessing in disguise for me, as I have more knowledge based on firsthand experience so I can clearly recognize gaslighting in mainstream media with their mountains of fake news citing bigger mountains of fake research. This fake research comes from fake academic universities (I had attended one so I know from firsthand experience) that all are part of the Nomenklatura, an elite group that infiltrates organizations that affect culture because politics is downwind of culture. The goal is purely political.
So why focus on trans people? I think that trans people, along with the MeToo movement, are being used as a Trojan horse to weaken, if not make impotent, the 5th amendment.
To review, the 5th amendment states the following:
“No person shall be held to answer for a capital, or otherwise infamous crime, unless on a presentment or indictment of a Grand Jury, except in cases arising in the land or naval forces, or in the Militia, when in actual service in time of War or public danger; nor shall any person be subject for the same offence to be twice put in jeopardy of life or limb; nor shall be compelled in any criminal case to be a witness against himself, nor be deprived of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor shall private property be taken for public use, without just compensation.” [2]
The 5th amendment kind of makes it tough for sociopaths with totalitarian ambitions to control everyone with impunity. It sucks when innocent people have a right to defend themselves, when questionably innocent people have a right to avoid incriminating themselves, and when accused people have a right to due process, why national socialists hate the Bill of Rights.
What does this have to do with trans people? The left is using trans people to change the legal system by changing the definition of gender from a biological construct to a social construct. Once gender becomes a social construct, crimes relating to gender no longer get 5th amendment protections; the definition of gender determines whether or not gender related issues are civil rights issues or civil liberties issues. This attempt to change the definition of gender is a direct assault on the 5th amendment, and the rest of us are being mentally tortured by mainstream media to support this assault on our civil liberties by changing gender from a civil liberties issue to a civil rights issue. [3,4]
But what about the research? Do I have to repeat myself again? No valid research can be produced from institutions that endorse and practice censorship. Science is dissent. Only pseudoscience can coexist with censorship. This is why Gender Studies and Sociology degrees are the academic abominations that they are, taking in sane and caring kids and molding them into mentally ill intolerant social just warriors who have no clue as to what science and freedom are.
Trans people are being used by the left as a Trojan Horse for treason and social justice warriors are pulling the wagon into the Whitehouse with intolerant and hateful glee.
I can’t think of many things crueler. It’s hard enough just being human. To have the Nomenklatura use you, that’s just revolting. And the American Psychological Association (APA) is complicit, having removed gender dysphoria from the DSM-V. You wouldn’t know it from mainstream media but there are plenty of trans people who have no problem saying they have gender dysphoria and know that gender is not a social construct. The media paints a misleading picture that all trans people are the same, and that they’re all fragile and weak. Hardly.
I am labeled transphobic because I know that if there isn’t a biological cause for a person to be transgender, of which there are many, then it’s mental, because I challenge the notion that gender is a social construct. I think people who call me transphobic are intolerant sophophobes. Here’s the thing that I don’t think people consider, having a disorder doesn’t have to be something to be ashamed of. So what if being trans is gender dysphoria. That doesn’t mean that you have to outwardly match your biological sex. Having a disorder doesn’t mean that seeking help means getting cured. Healing and curing are two different things. This idea that trans people can’t exist if gender is biological is ridiculous. Transitioning is transitioning. Healing is healing. Living is living. No definition can change the good person that you are, that you know yourself to be, that you want to be.
Experience can shape and change a brain. I know this to be true in my life. I will never be normal. The abuse I survived was like a traumatic brain injury. Yes, I’m limited in some aspects of my life, but I get to enjoy richness that only comes from surviving; I know how bad life can be. I love what others might consider mundane or banal. I have mad drawing skills from all of that time I spent alone. I’ve been so close to death that I appreciate each day as a miracle. I’m happy to be alive and I want to stay alive.
I know what my disorder is, which helps me take the steps necessary to make sure that I keep wanting to live. I can’t imagine what would have happened to me if my disorder was turned into something else for social justice. I’d probably be dead.
I will always live with my mental disorder, if it doesn’t kill me first. I can’t undo what’s been done to me. I can minimize symptoms and work to extinguish the triggers I know of. I’m always healing. Expecting people with different mental disorders to be cured is wrong and harmful. We’re healing on our own terms. Therapists meet the needs of their clients. Clients decide what the goals are. The client decides. If being a woman in a man’s body is the client’s choice, that’s perfectly fine.
For me, I find men’s clothing to be like armor. I had very short hair for a long time and dressed like a man because I simply didn’t feel like a woman anymore. Raising a kid alone, I was more of a single father than a single mother. My daughter wanted me to dress pretty, to grow my hair out. I didn’t. Instead, I shopped in the men’s department. Men’s blazers are exceptionally soothing, like if therapy animals were clothing. I had other issues that were more important than my gender issues. My therapist offered suggestions but I chose my goals.
I secretly wish gender was a social construct though so gay men would date me instead of laughing at me for finding them attractive. Feeling like a gay man trapped in a woman’s body isn’t a selection on the Genderbread man. I definitely prefer men. However, guys like pretty girls. I like manspreading, cigars, and telling people to suck my dick. In fact, part of how I have been able to accept my body is by having the knowledge that men and women have the exact same parts expressed in different ways. I imagine my parts to be male parts in reverse. That works for me. (If the guy I’m in love with was to read this, I’m sure he’d be feeling super relieved that he dumped me. I still love you!)
No one is telling trans people not to be trans. No one is trying to decide for them who they can and cannot be. This is the media gaslighting it’s audience. The goal is simply to restore the definition of gender back to its original meaning in order to restore the 5th amendment. I mean, who in their right mind looks back at the Salem Witch Trials and thinks, “That was a good idea”, except for the likes of anti-American organizations like UCSA and USSA that funded and put on those fake protests during the Kavanaugh confirmation hearings? Or lynchings, hanging people from trees because they were denied 5th amendment protections; you like that? To support gender as a social construct indirectly supports tyranny and totalitarian national socialism through law; Salem, Massachusetts, during the Witch Trials. We’re all being plaid.
And it’s okay if being trans is a mental disorder if no biological cause is found. Lots of us have mental disorders that we live with. Treatment can be aimed at suicide prevention instead of changing yourself if you don’t want to change. Lots of us have limitations because of our disorders. We also have strengths too. The only way we will value the strengths in each other is if we can interact with each other without hysterics and get to know each other as human beings. Censoring people with different ideas and ostracizing people with labels you don’t like is where bigotry comes from. The biggest bigots are from the left as a result, cocooning themselves off into tiny little hugboxes, censoring and rejecting anyone who threatens their rightness, like true victims of gaslighting would.
I do want to add one more thing. A disturbing trend I’ve noticed in the field of psychology is the acceptance of byproducts of child abuse as identities. Bisexuality is commonly a byproduct of sexual abuse. Human sexuality classes leave you to believe that it’s a sexuality that you’re born with. Transgender people (who aren’t on the autism spectrum) are frequently survivors of incredible abuse. It’s because we know that sexual abuse harms children that we have laws that make overt and sometimes covert sexual contact and activities with children illegal. Social Justice in essence is arguing that this harm doesn’t exist because byproducts of sexual abuse are now identities and you’re trying to erase a person’s identity otherwise. If no harm can be proven, there’s no legal justification to make pedophilia a crime.
If your identity is a lie, you erase your own identity by believing a lie. I know that because I lived it. I’ve had to accept that a huge part of who I am is the product of abuse. Having the identity of Artist, accepting the Artist Mystique, the Artist stereotype, suggested that my childhood abuse had no negative effects when in fact the dysfunction and isolation that resulted from child abuse is what caused me to be an artist. My identity was erased because I was an artist. It’s only now that I know how much of me is really complex post traumatic stress disorder so that I can make decisions for myself as an informed representative for myself. The Artist Mystique denied me this. I suffered for this. Now that I’ve accepted myself, I can redefine what it means to be an artist in a way that reflects growth and curiosity. I can be an artist and not hate myself for it. It’s not my entire identity. I don’t need to be an artist to have an identity. I’m me. That’s enough.
I know of one person who’s made the claim that sexual abuse doesn’t harm everyone. I knew he was molested the first moment I heard his voice and read his body language. That’s probably one of the more insidious byproducts of abuse, that we don’t know ourselves, that we can’t feel our own feelings, or that we’ve stop feeling our pain (without cutting) because we didn’t have people to help us process some of the sick and evil shit that happened to us by bigger and older human beings. It took me over 40 years to realize that maybe my childhood PTSD stemmed from someone trying to kill me when I was a little girl. When I remember this incident, I don’t feel anything. This lack of feeling kept me from experiencing any genuine closeness to anyone. I felt like I wasn’t experiencing life completely, like I was an astronaut in a space suit floating through earth.
If we can’t feel, we can’t resonate. We can’t have genuine empathy.
So why does it seem like the APA is separating cause from effect in the field of psychology? Research affects law. Pedophilia will be decriminalized if no harm can be proven. You think I’m crazy? Yeah, I realize that I ramble like a person who’ll scream for hours at a bus stop only to stop occasionally to bum for cigarettes. But then I remember, we couldn’t keep an alleged child sex trafficker alive in prison so he could face trial. Protecting pedophilia appears to have a higher priority than protecting children.
I think it’s inhumane to decriminalize pedophilia if it means allowing people to suffer needlessly, retarding their quality of life, regardless of therapies and drugs available to treat symptoms. It’s easier to build strong children than repair broken men. In my case, I’ll always be broken. I’ve been cheated out of a happy life. I wish that everyone can have a better life than mine.
[1] Sarkis, S. (2017). 11 Warning Signs of Gaslighting; Gaslighting is a manipulation tactic used to gain power. And it works too well. Psychology Today. Retrieved from: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/here-there-and-everywhere/201701/11-warning-signs-gaslighting
[2] National Archives (ND). The Bill of Rights: A Transcription. National Archives.
Retrieved from:
https://www.archives.gov/founding-docs/bill-of-rights-transcript
[3] Farshtey. PDF CIVIL LIBERTIES AND CIVIL RIGHTS
Click to access civil_liberties-civil_rights.pdf
[4] Wallin, P. (2018). What is Double Jeopardy and How Does it Apply in A Criminal Case? Wallin & Klarich, a law corporation. Retrieved from:
https://www.wklaw.com/double-jeopardy-apply-criminal-case/
And this is what an assault on the first amendment looks like. I’ve made wedding cakes for same-sex couples. No problem. I hate this baker’s decision. I think he’s stupid. But, the first amendment is the first amendment. And marriage is not under the jurisdiction of the supreme court; marriage belongs to the state according to the constitution. The supreme interprets the constitution, which says that state courts have jurisdiction over marriage laws. The supreme court is not a branch of the legislature, at least it’s not supposed to be. And none of these anti-American activists trolled any Muslim bakeries, which I find very telling. Social justice is proxy warfare against America by undermining the constitution and Bill of Rights, worse than refusing to make a cake for gay couples who want to celebrate their love and commitment to each other like every other normal person.
Read between the lines. America is under attack.
Barnes, R. (2017). Supreme Court to take case on baker who refused to sell wedding cake to gay couple. The Washington Post. Retrieved from:
https://www.washingtonpost.com/politics/courts_law/supreme-court-to-take-case-on-baker-who-refused-to-sell-wedding-cake-to-gay-couple/2017/06/26/0c2f8606-0cde-11e7-9d5a-a83e627dc120_story.html?utm_term=.537674ce25dd
Alexandria Jane 